Adjusting to life with 4 children has had its challenges.
Lucky for us, Mithadeline, despite her limitations, is very independent. She
goes up and down stairs by herself and prefers to walk on her hands and drag
her legs/feet than to sit in a stroller or be carried. She can get herself up
to the table and gets dressed by herself. She needs help getting on the potty.
Finally after week 3, I decided to put a chair in the bathroom so she could sit
on it to brush her teeth and wash her hands. We are amazed at the abilities she
has. She is very determined. We know she will continue to amaze and astonish
us.
I guess, unbeknownst to us, our four year old previously
ruled the roost around here (ha ha). He has been having the hardest time adjusting to a
new person in the house. The two of them have tender loving moments and then
some not so classy moments. They team up occasionally to get the rest of us and
prove that even though they are small, they matter also! Elias has displayed
some bullying behavior. I was concerned about this, feeling like my son was a
monster. But then realized that he was having some of the same issues I was
having in my mind. The difference being, I am a mature adult and know what to do with
these sorts of feelings. Four year olds don’t. He acts on impulse. So we are
learning to deal with this, some days are better than others. This is where
loving doesn’t look so lovely all the
time.
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| This is the 4 of them after having fun in the sprinkler! |
A wise person gave me some perspective on this. In a
year from now, Elias will have learned many life lessons from having a
temporary sibling, that if we never had any other children he would not have
had the opportunity to learn. I needed this new perspective, especially for
days when I am counting to ten over and over and over again…breathe…breathe…..